My Partner Is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion, but I’m Not Sure


If you’re pregnant and your partner is pressuring you to have an abortion, know that only you can decide how to move forward with your pregnancy. It’s illegal for anyone to coerce you into having an abortion. If you feel pressured and need someone to talk to, contact us today to schedule a free, confidential appointment with one of our caring team members.

It is important for you to make an informed decision without feeling pressured—your mental health depends on it. According to a study by the Journal of American Physicians and Surgeons, https://www.jpands.org/vol22no4/coleman.pdf almost 75% of women who had an abortion felt at least subtly pressured into making the decision. 

Abortion can have long-lasting mental and emotional effects. The women who felt pressured into an abortion “reported symptoms of depression, guilt, shame, regret, self-hatred, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of being unworthy of love, drug or alcohol addiction, low self-esteem, anxiety, and thoughts or attempts of suicide.” Not allowing yourself to be pressured into this life-changing decision can help you avoid those serious long-term effects.

If your partner is pressuring you to have an abortion, there are action steps you can take to ensure that you’re making your own decision. Our nurses and staff can equip you with all the options available, help you talk to your partner about all options, and will support and empower you.

Be Informed

The only way to know what’s best for you and your pregnancy is to be informed about all your options. These include parenting, adoption, and abortion. Parenting and adoption both mean carrying the pregnancy to term. These can be challenging yet very rewarding options. It’s important that you have all the facts so that you can make the healthiest decision.


Parenting might feel like an impossible option. Maybe this pregnancy doesn’t fit in with your current life goals or you don’t feel like you have a support system to help. These concerns are understandable.  There are many community resources that can assist you.  We can help connect you with these resources and walk alongside you through your pregnancy if you do choose to parent.


Did you know you have options within adoption? You can choose the family, and how much or little contact you want with them. This can be a difficult option because it means carrying the pregnancy to term, but it can also be a very rewarding experience. 


This option involves terminating your pregnancy. Before choosing this option, it’s essential to consider the immediate short-term and long-term mental health risks. If your partner or anyone else presses you to have an abortion, they may not fully understand all the options themselves. Schedule an appointment to learn more from our nurses and staff, and they can help guide you in explaining your choice to your partner.  

Seek Help

Is your partner making you feel unsafe? Are they threatening you to have an abortion against your will? If so, these are signs of an abusive relationship. If you feel immediate danger, contact the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. A representative can assist you with resources that will help you find safety. 

You’re Not Alone

Facing an unplanned pregnancy without the support of your partner can feel isolating. At Heartbeats, we understand what you’re going through and are here to help. We offer free pregnancy resources and are here to answer any questions you have about your options moving forward. Contact us today to schedule a free, confidential appointment in a non-judgmental space. 

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