We’ve all been there. Caught in a situation where a choice needs to be made and fear tries to grip for control over the outcome. There is urgency in these moments to make a choice out of fear. We must fight against the urge to make rash pregnancy decisions. What can we do to ensure we make a call from facts and not feelings?
First, we need to understand that feelings are not reliable. Although we should acknowledge them, they are not meant for us to make choices from them. We can ask ourselves why we are reacting to a situation in a particular way to better understand ourselves, but never to rely on them to guide us to a decision. Everyone has their own unique set of experiences that shapes their perception of the world around them. For example, if you have been abused, you may not readily trust people and look at relationships as a liability. You may tend to keep to yourself rather than engage in conversation that may lead to vulnerability.
Make sure you take your time and not jump to any decisions you may regret in the future. Think through your alternatives and make sure it is the best possible choice you can make. You can do this by creating a list of the available choices and the possible outcomes. Sometimes we see from a limited perspective and we need to give ourselves time to step away from the situation to see more clearly.