We’ve all been there. Caught in a situation where a choice needs to be made and fear tries to grip for control over the outcome. There is urgency in these moments to make a choice out of fear. We must fight against the urge to make a rash decision. What can we do to ensure we make a call from facts and not feelings?
First, we need to understand that feelings are not reliable. Although we should acknowledge them, they are not meant for us to make choices from them. We can ask ourselves why we are reacting to a situation in a particular way to better understand ourselves, but never to rely on them to guide us to a decision. Everyone has their own unique set of experiences that shapes their perception of the world around them. For example, if you have been abused, you may not readily trust people and look at relationships as a liability. You may tend to keep to yourself rather than engage in conversation that may lead to vulnerability.
Make sure you take your time and not jump to any decisions you may regret in the future. Think through your alternatives and make sure it is the best possible choice you can make. You can do this by creating a list of the available choices and the possible outcomes. Sometimes we see from a limited perspective and we need to give ourselves time to step away from the situation to see more clearly.
Get help! You can reach out to agencies or people in your community that are trained to help you through life’s struggles. Heartbeat is one place you can go. We have trained volunteers that will work with you one on one and mentor and help navigate you through your circumstances. We have all been in situations where we didn’t know what to do and we needed guidance just like you.
Be informed! Get as much information possible on your situation. Heartbeats offers a variety of information on parenting, miscarriage, abortion, adoption and life skills in general. You have choices and we want to help you choose what’s best for you!
Celebrate! You are a valuable person capable of making healthy choices for your present and future! You can do it! Don’t let fear stop you from reaching out for help or making a decision you will one day regret! Contact us and we can help you walk through your journey! You can and will move forward despite fear!